Hayim Nissim Cohen, Father of ‘Our Unique Family,’ Sued & Charged with Sexual Abuse of Child

Hayim Nissim Cohen, formerly known as Jeffrey Lujan Vejil of Odessa Texas, is the subject of both a civil suit and a criminal indictment for sexual abuse of children. Cohen gained some notoriety for being a Chassidic, single, adoptive father of 9 in Houston Texas. He has been written about in many Jewish and non-Jewish media outlets, and runs a website about his family called Our Unique Family. Cohen has presented in recent years. For starters, in a 2019 Jewish Press article Cohen seems to have represented himself as a Williamsburg native who moved to Texas in his 20s and had a brief stint in social work. He represented himself in the same way in an interview for the Adath Israel of San Francisco blog. Neither of those things is true.  

According to the civil suit filed against him, Hayim Nissim Cohen was born Jeffrey Lujan Vejil in 1984 in Odessa, Texas. This is confirmed by a quick Google search finding only one Jeffrey Lujan Vejil in the state of Texas born in 1984. According to the Odessa High School website Jeffrey was part of the graduating class of 2002. In 2005 a picture of him was featured in the Odessa American assisting in relief efforts at a Red Cross shelter set up at UTPB in Odessa, Texas following Hurricane Rita. While he is listed as having attended high school from 1998-2002, I couldn’t find any records online of which college he may have attended to study social work. I was also unable to find any social work license, current or expired, for either Hayim Nissim Cohen, or Jeffrey Vejil. Given the image in the Odessa American, Cohen was not a Williamsbug native, and definitely was born, raised, and lived in Texas until 2005.

By presenting himself as a Williamsburg native to the Jewish press Cohen was no doubt trying to avoid discussing his conversion to Judaism, which, if it happened, would have had to happen after 2005. There are other inconsistencies as well. In a 2017 interview with Houston Family Magazine, Cohen says that his children, who at the time numbered 6, were either able to speak or write Hebrew. However, in a 2019 Jewish Herald-Voice article he claims that 7 of his 9 adopted children were originally from Yiddish speaking families, and two were from Hebrew speaking families. In the different interviews he’s done he seems to tailor the narrative of himself and his family to suit the outlet’s audience.  

In October of 2019, Hayim Nissim Cohen was charged with Indecency with a Child related to Sexual Contact, a third-degree felony in the state of Texas. According to the Texas penal code:

A person commits an offense if, with a child younger than 17 years of age, whether the child is of the same or opposite sex and regardless of whether the person knows the age of the child at the time of the offense, the person:

(1) engages in sexual contact with the child or causes the child to engage in sexual contact;  or

(2) with intent to arouse or gratify the sexual desire of any person:

(A) exposes the person’s anus or any part of the person’s genitals, knowing the child is present;  or

(B) causes the child to expose the child’s anus or any part of the child’s genitals.

On the 28th of October, 2019 Cohen surrendered himself to police. Following his arraignment, he was released on 25,000 bond. This was later raised to $75,000 after a failure to appeal resulted in the revocation of his original bond. The case is still active with the next hearing scheduled for February 10th, 2022.

In April of 2021, a civil complaint was filed against Hayim Nissim Cohen for the abuse charged in the criminal complaint. According to the complaint, Plaintiff was a foreign exchange student from Spain participating in a foreign student exchange program facilitated by Estudiar en USA on the Spanish side, and Educational Resource Development Trust’s (ERDT) Share! High School Student Exchange Program on the American side. According to ERDT’s Share! website, they perform background checks on all parents who apply to host foreign exchange students. According to the complaint, Cohen had applied in 2014 and then again in 2018 to be a host parent for foreign exchange students. Detailed in the complaint are the numerous lies Cohen told on his background check application.

First, according to the complaint, Cohen listed an incorrect date of birth. He allegedly listed his work as “foundation” and his position as “rabbi” and provided his own cellphone number as his work number. The complaint further alleges that Cohen had stated that neither he nor anyone in his household had ever been arrested or convicted of any offense greater than a minor traffic offense. This was a lie. According to a criminal court search of the Ector County court records, Cohen, while still Jeffrey Vejil, had been arrested and convicted three times between 2005-2006 for misdemeanor theft.

The complaint further alleges that when asked for two character references within the Houston area, Cohen provided two names of people outside Houston, and that the phone numbers he provided for those people not only weren’t theirs, but actually belonged to Cohen and one of his children. The complaint also alleges that Cohen lied on the background check about never having received public assistance. According to the complaint, the background check didn’t turn up any information about his arrests or convictions, or even his name change from Jeffrey Vejil to Hayim Nissim Cohen, and many other claims Cohen had made which were allegedly lies. Nevertheless, according to the complaint, ERDT approved Cohen to be a host for foreign exchange students.

The complaint alleges that following his approval Cohen was provided with applications and photographs of foreign exchange students by ERDT, and that Cohen selected Plaintiff. According to the complaint, ERDT’s policies required that their staff remain in contact with foreign exchange students placed in host homes and regularly check in with the. Plaintiff alleges that not only did ERDT staff not keep in contact, but that Cohen had confiscated Plaintiff’s phone to prevent him from communicating with ERDT staff or his family. Despite this, ERDT allegedly continued to place foreign exchange students with Cohen.

According to the complaint, on numerous occasions between September 2018 and April 2019, while Plaintiff was between 15 and 16 years old, Cohen sexually abused Plaintiff by forcing him to spend hours in Cohen’s bedroom alone, forcing him to get into Cohen’s bed, forcing him to rub Cohen’s stomach and chest for the purpose of arousing him, forcing him to touch Cohen’s penis both inside and outside his clothes, and forcing him to masturbate Cohen until climax. The complaint further alleges that aside from the sexual abuse, Cohen psychologically abused Plaintiff by threatening to tell his parents about other minor infractions and threatening to have Plaintiff dismissed from the student exchange program, which would have caused Plaintiff to lose a year of his education. According to the complaint, unable to endure Cohen’s abuse any longer, Plaintiff made an outcry to representatives of his school. Shortly thereafter Cohen was arrested for the charge detailed above.

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8 thoughts on “Hayim Nissim Cohen, Father of ‘Our Unique Family,’ Sued & Charged with Sexual Abuse of Child

  1. Eli says:

    I’ve been trying to warn people about this psychopath for years – most refused to believe anything until he was criminally charged. He and the older adopted children currently seem to have a “Weekend at Bernie’s” scheme going on, as Vejil has been quite ill.
    I met Vejil in 2010, he claimed to be a Yemenite Cohen whose ancestors were taken out of Yemen by the Satmar Chassidim – and that he was a Satmar Chassid living in Borough Park, Brooklyn, and in Houston for medical treatment. Most, if not all, was lies.
    When he first adopted a couple of boys – biological brothers – he claimed they were Israeli kids whose parents went to prison (for drugs); and the parents were friends of his family and asked that he take care of them during their incarceration. This was also most likely lies.
    Unfortunately, he gives a ‘nice guy’ vibe that conceals his nefarious intentions – hopefully he’ll go to prison soon!

    • While he may have created that sort of identity for himself, he definitely didn’t live in Williamsburg. I have no way of knowing if he visited at any point, but there isn’t enough of a gap in his timeline for him to have spent any meaningful time there.

  2. The social media page has always same a little off to me. I started noticing strange things when I saw that giant picture of the rebbe in his house but they claim they’re Bobov? But I thought he was just socially awkward, I did not expect to read this kind of thing!!! I’ve read that the boys aren’t even Jewish?

      • That’s crazy! How did he convince the boys to start pretending to be Chassidic Jews? I’m really curious about what he told them.

        I read the termination of parental rights for two of the boys (brothers) and it said that the boys wanted to be with Cohen. It said their mother was a drug addict and they were living in a motel and her rights were terminated. But then he claims that they came from a Chassidic family in an interview. I’m not Chassidic but from what I understand is that they look out for each other, I can’t imagine they’d leave a single mother with a drug problem, alone with two children and in motel without trying to help her.

        I just don’t get it at all. He changed their names, changed their lifestyles and obviously doesn’t let them keep in touch with their biological families.

  3. The social media page has always same a little off to me. I started noticing strange things when I saw that giant picture of the rebbe in his house but they claim they’re Breslov? But I thought he was just socially awkward, I did not expect to read this kind of thing!!! I’ve read that the boys aren’t even Jewish?

  4. Melech says:

    all these facts about ‘cohen’ were known. I also warned people in Houston about him and contacted the media that ran stories on him but they were not interested. The local Chabad house knew about him, even Aish.com mysteriously took down a story after a week. So its no secret that people knew this man is a danger but no one wanted to do anything,even for the sake of the children. As far as the kids status, knowing what i know, lets just say that I hope people from the community reach out to the kids and give them a proper conversion if that is what they want to do.

  5. Kim says:

    How does he support all these kids? How and why did a foreign Exchange student even get placed with them if they are not Jewish? I am a host parent to a boy from Spain. He does to a public high school none of this home school nonsense. He has his own big bedroom. I cannot imagine a boy wanting to live in a house with this many kids and share a bedroom with 3 boys. The fact the father adopted all boys is a red flag. Weirdo. He has some jewish fetish or something

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